Posts Tagged ‘young men’
When I was a young girl, I used to watch my Dad hold doors open for women, mow their lawns, give items from his garden to elderly women, etc. It was so wonderful to see how nicely my Dad treated women in general. He said, “It’s not that they cannot hold a door open for themselves, it’s just respectful to show them that you honor women.” My Dad also would not allow a woman to carry or move anything heavy in his presence.
So, my question to you this week is simple, do you show respect to girls and women? Are you careful not to be rude to girls or women with the tone of your voice and the words that you use? Do you call girls or women out of their names? Are you actions kind toward girls and women?
Being a gentleman really does go a long way despite the way our current society depicts women and the way some women depict themselves. Women are not objects to be used for your own pleasure, they are living, thinking, human beings who are capable of loving and enriching your lives…………if you treat them correctly.
When I was a little girl my Dad would always say, “A man is only as good as his word.” Back then, I had no idea what he meant. As I have gotten older, I clearly understand what it means to witness a man who never keeps his word and a man who always keeps his word.
Think about whether or not you are a young man of integrity who does what he says that he will do or not. Do you have integrity? Why or why not? How do you think others view you if you do or do not keep your word? Do you care? Why or why not?
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Lately there has been a lot of talk about young men dropping out of school and not graduating from high school. Some young men think that they can make fast money on the street hustling, trying to become a rapper, or doing a host of bad things.
Do you really want to spend you life looking over your shoulder? Don’t you want to have a stable and safe life for your future families? Of course you do! Did you know that if you are convicted of a felony that you cannot qualify for federal financial aid? That’s pretty awful right? The powers that be feel that if you make a mistake, you should not be allowed to ask for financial assistance to attend school. You know why those laws are in place, because there is lots of money to be made by having inmates in prison. I won’t go into the story here, but do your own research and find out about how prisons are multimillion dollar industries.
I know that you may have many obstacles in your life. Maybe your parent works all the time and your never see your Mom and Dad, maybe you live with a foster parent or a relative, maybe you don’t have nice clothes and shoes for school, maybe other kids make fun of you for no reason. I know school can be tough, I have been there, but PLEASE finish high school and go to college. You can do it!!!!
These days you have options. If you do not want to go to a school campus for some reason, you can receive your high school diploma by attending school online. You may also attend a Junior College, which is a less expensive way to get your general education courses out of the way, and then you can transfer to a four-year college having spent less money.
For the young men who read “TVI:JWJ” please remember that I have faith in you and that I am praying for you. You are winners!!!
Dear Young Gentlemen,
Happy New Year!
I hope that you all had a terrific holiday. I know that most of you are still out of school and on vacation, so enjoy your down time.
I simply wanted to tell you all that you are SPECIAL, you are INCREDIBLE, you have so MUCH to OFFER the world, and your presence here on earth is important. Someday, you may grow up to be a doctor who finds a cure for cancer, a lawyer who wins a landmark case, an artist who brings diverse people together through his paintings, or a musician who spreads love through music.
Whatever God has in store for your destiny, just know that you are special and you are here for a reason. Keep working hard, keep achieving and pushing yourself, keep asking for help when you need it, keep being brave, keep showing vulnerability with people who make you feel safe, and keep moving forward by being a positive young man.
Remember that I love you and I am always praying for you!
Dear Young Ladies & Young Men:
When I was four years old, I said that I wanted to be a Psychiatrist and drive a Porsche. My parents were asked where I got this idea from. My parents said that they did not know, especially since at that time, my family and I lived in the projects in a small city in Connecticut. As a four year old, I remember hating when it snowed because the chicken wire on our patio area would freeze. Being caged in like that made me feel like an animal. I knew then that I would never live in a place with bars and chicken looking wire because I felt like someone was trying to trap me in. Since then, I have continued to dream big. I have faced more than my share of failures and hardships, but I decided NEVER to give up because I was taught that God will never put more on you than you can bear. Please remember this!
If you are going through something that is hard to deal with, remember you can endure it. Use this difficulty as an opportunity to grow, learn from it, and then move forward. In life, you will always have a chance to move forward or start over….or start again. I know that as a young person, life seems so permanent, it is not. Whatever you are going through now will end, and you will be happy again. You will be whole again. You will live the life that you have dreamed for yourself….but you have to keep on moving and keep on dreaming.
If you are having a hard time right now, I suggest that you pray. Also, try to find someone mature that you trust to confide in. If it is a school or work issue, then try to find a mentor or a supportive person. Do not be afraid to ask good and trustworthy people to mentor or support you.
Remember that I love you and I am always praying for you.
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Dear Young Ladies & Gentlemen:
I hope that you all are doing well this week. These days you and your parents may be facing difficult times, so I just wanted to encourage you in hopes that you can encourage your family.
I created an acronym just for you all, it is called P.U.S.H. PUSH stands for performing under strong hampering. In essence I am simply asking you to persevere through any hard times. You will be fine. Life sometimes changes, but all situations have a remedy.
Remember that I love you and I am always praying for you. Don’t forget to share the encouragement (smiling).
Dear Young Men:
I hope that you all are having fun and enjoying your lives. My advice to you this week is to take the time to do something fun. Also, if you have not taken the time to have a conversation with your parent(s), then pick a topic and talk to your parent(s) this week. If you don’t have anything to say to your parent(s), then just ask them how they are doing and the conversation should be started from that point. Why am I asking you to do this? I want you to be comfortable with learning to have fun and developing a good relationship with your parent(s). Communication will be essential in your relationships as you grow up so learning how to communicate well will benefit you in life, in career, and in your future relationships.
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A JWJ reader suggested that I focus more blogs on young men. I must admit at first, I felt that I was not qualified for this job as a woman, but after thinking about it long and hard, I have decided to accept the challenge.
This week I would like to discuss a taboo topic for boys and young men…….E-M-O-T-I-O-N-S.
In our society, from boyhood to manhood, men are told that they should hide their emotions. Often times, men suppress their feelings. After feelings have been suppressed for a long time, the person suppressing those feelings could become a “boiling pot” and begin to become so heated and angry that they do something harmful to themselves or others.
If you or someone that you know has a problem with showing emotions, please talk to someone that you trust about this issue. I suggest talking to someone who is a older and wiser than you are and who is mature enough to understand that “all people” regardless of gender deserve the opportunity to express their feelings. Just know that showing your emotions does not make you soft, weak, or any less of a young man. In truth, showing your emotions will make you a better person, a better son, a better brother, and a better friend.
If you would like to discuss your feelings or talk about why you do not share your feelings, feel free to drop a line to me. Also, if you do not know how to listen to your emotions and determine how you feel about things, I want to hear from you.