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Dear Young Ladies & Young Gentleman

Dear Young Ladies & Young Men:

When I was four years old, I said that I wanted to be a Psychiatrist and drive a Porsche. My parents were asked where I got this idea from. My parents said that they did not know, especially since at that time, my family and I lived in the projects in a small city in Connecticut. As a four year old, I remember hating when it snowed because the chicken wire on our patio area would freeze. Being caged in like that made me feel like an animal. I knew then that I would never live in a place with bars and chicken looking wire because I felt like someone was trying to trap me in. Since then, I have continued to dream big. I have faced more than my share of failures and hardships, but I decided NEVER to give up because I was taught that God will never put more on you than you can bear. Please remember this!

If you are going through something that is hard to deal with, remember you can endure it. Use this difficulty as an opportunity to grow, learn from it, and then move forward. In life, you will always have a chance to move forward or start over….or start again. I know that as a young person, life seems so permanent, it is not. Whatever you are going through now will end, and you will be happy again. You will be whole again. You will live the life that you have dreamed for yourself….but you have to keep on moving and keep on dreaming.

If you are having a hard time right now, I suggest that you pray. Also, try to find someone mature that you trust to confide in. If it is a school or work issue, then try to find a mentor or a supportive person. Do not be afraid to ask good and trustworthy people to mentor or support you.

Remember that I love you and I am always praying for you.

Please feel free to leave a comment.

You Can Make It!!

Dear Young Ladies:

I have truly missed writing to you all. I apologize for missing a few weeks, but with the holiday and with the start of a new quarter in school, I fell behind.

This week, I just wanted to encourage you all to continue to pursue your dreams and goals. I know that you may be facing obstacles, feeling discouraged, or even feeling like you cannot reach your goal. I am here to tell you that YOU CAN MAKE IT! YOU CAN SUCCEED! I believe that when circumstances come into our lives to derail our goals and dreams, these circumstances can push us into being our greatest selves as long as we REFUSE to quit. Remember, difficult times are only temporary. Things will be good again, you will reach your goal, so get back up and try again.

I love you all and remember that I am praying for your happiness and success.


Dear Young Ladies & Gentlemen:

I hope that you all are doing well this week. These days you and your parents may be facing difficult times, so I just wanted to encourage you in hopes that you can encourage your family.

I created an acronym just for you all, it is called P.U.S.H. PUSH stands for performing under strong hampering. In essence I am simply asking you to persevere through any hard times. You will be fine. Life sometimes changes, but all situations have a remedy.

Remember that I love you and I am always praying for you. Don’t forget to share the encouragement (smiling).

Who Am I?

Dear Young Ladies:

I have missed writing to you all. I’m so sorry that I fell behind but life has a way of sending interferences that you did not plan on having in your life. I am happy to be back here with you (big smile).

As I was thinking about what to write to you young ladies, I thought about a question I had as a young girl. My question was and sometimes still is today, “Who Am I?” Do you ever ask yourself that question?

When I was a young girl, I always kept a diary. I wrote down everything that happened to me in a day or I wrote about the highlight of my day or the worst part of my day. What I remember most, is that I wrote about how I felt about what happened during that day and how I handled it. Usually, I would read the diary entries for weeks or months prior and this exercise helped me to realize who I was……and today this exercise still helps me to understand who I am.

So I ask you, who are you? Who do you want to become? Are you on the road to becoming the young lady that you want to be? Do you have a plan to address obstacles that will try to derail your goals? How do you plan to be the young lady that God designed you to be?

As always, remember that I love you and I am praying for your success.

Feel free to leave a comment if you would like to discuss this posting.

Learning To Cook


Dear Young Ladies:

I hope that you had a wonderful 4th of July holiday!

As you know, I am concerned about your future success so I am writing you these letters so that you will know what steps that you will need to take to improve your life.  Please remember, you have to plan the way you want your life to go (as much as possible).  You have to work toward your goals and dreams. 

Today, I want to talk to you all about cooking.  In the future, I will have other women to write letters to you about cooking and the importance of it because I think that it is imperative that you learn.

As a young lady, you will need to learn how to cook for yourself and for your future family.  If you do not know how to cook then watch or shadow someone who does.  If you do not have someone in your immediate family that cooks, then ask another woman if she would allow you to watch and help her cook so that you can learn the art of cooking.  Most women would feel complimented if you ask them to teach you how to cook, so be bold and ask for help.

Remember that I love you and I am praying for you.



Hi Young Ladies:

I hope that you all are having a prosperous week.  For those of you who are in school I hope that you have summer plans that include pursuing your dreams.  I am not suggesting that you do not take time to rest, but I want to see you use your time wisely.  Use the summer to improve on areas in school where you may be weak like.  If you are already a great student then read as many books as you can for the summer.  Reading is a fundamental tool that will take you very, very far in life. 

As always, you young ladies are on my mind.  I care about your futures, your dreams, and your hardships.  Why?  Because I know what it feels like to be deeply cared about.  When I was a young girl I had the support of my family, my best friend’s family, teachers, Pastors, extended family, church family.  I felt so loved and so supported, I just want you young ladies to feel the same love and support that I felt.  I hope that you know that I am in your corner and it gives me great joy to see you thriving and being excellent and positive.  Keep up the great work!!!!!

Lastly, I want to talk about self-discovery.  Take the time to find a moment when you can be alone.  If you like to write or listen to music then do it, but think about who you are, while you are doing your regular hobbies.  Ask yourself, am I the person that I want to be?  Do I like myself? Do I love myself?  How do I treat others?  If I have an attitude or if I am rude to others, why am I that way?   Ask questions that focus on the inside of you and direct the questions and responses to yourself.  I would strongly recommend writing this exercise out so that you can come back to it whenever you need to.  This exercise is not meant for you to think about what other people think about you as their opinion is secondary. 

It is also important to know how God feels about you by reading the Bible and finding out that He predetermined a future and a hope for your life.  Next, it is important for you to know how you feel about yourself.  As you develop a deeper love and respect for yourself, your attitude will reflect that confidence and joy to others.  Let’s practice thinking this way during this week.  Let me know how you felt.

As always, I love you and I am praying for you.

Always Speak


Dear Young Ladies: 

I hope that you had a wonderful week and I hope that you are living life to the fullest and working toward your dreams and goals. 

I was thinking about my days in college. I remember walking onto the U.C.L.A. campus.  I was so happy to be there I just wanted to meet everyone.  As I started to walk the campus I was so excited to see other Black young ladies on the campus (because we were few).  One day, I walked past a Black young lady.  I said, “Hello!”  She rolled her eyes and did not speak to me.  Day after day I received the same response from young lady after young lady(not all ladies were like this, I made many Sista friends who I am still friends with today).  Back then and even today, I think that this behavior is AWFUL. 

As ladies, we should remember that we are beautiful and wonderful creatures.  First off, we must develop our self-esteem.  Next, we have to fight to protect our self-esteem.  If we protect our self-esteem we are able to make eye contact and speak to other women and men when we see them.  In other words, in passing or walking by other people, always say, hello, make eye contact, hold your head up, and smile.  By projecting a great attitude all of the time, this lets other people know that you are confident.  Even if you speak to someone that does not speak to you just brush it off and keep being a classy young lady.  Also, please apply this same behavior when you go to church, clubs, or parties.  Be a lady!  Be above the mess.  If someone does not like you that is his or her problem, not your problem…so don’t make it your problem by calling her(the offender) out of her name or fighting.  It’s not worth it.  You will go far in life when you know how to treat people despite what they may do or how they behave.

As always, remember that I love you and I am praying for you.

You Are Lovable and Capable, Special, and Unique!

I was thinking about what to write today, I decided that I want this letter to address the self-esteem of my beautiful young ladies.  When I was a girl in the fourth grade there was an elderly African-American woman who would come to my class often to encourage the kids and tell us that we were VALUABLE.  I do not remember the older woman’s name, but I know that she had a great impact on my life.

She would ask the whole class to repeat after her and we would say, “I AM LOVEABLE AND CAPABLE, SPECIAL, AND UNIQUE!”

From the very first time I recited this line, I believed it.  Somewhere deep inside of me I felt like this woman had understood how I felt and at that very young age she gave me the vocabulary to speak my feelings.  Once I believed these words I was able to live my life in a way that said I do believe and care about myself.  I love me!

I want you young ladies to love YOU!!!  Take time to get to know yourselves, listen to yourselves and your intuitions (the voice that tells you what is right and wrong).  Please do not allow negative people or situations to destroy your future and  your destiny.  Many of you have lived through horrible situations but because you lived through them, God has a plan for you to tell your story of overcoming those issues to others.  Remember that I love you and that you are valuable.  You CAN and WILL  do great things!

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