Posts Tagged ‘love’
The Virgin’s Island: Journey With Judith has decided to begin a daily “Love Campaign!” As we know our political, social, and economic statuses are inconsistent and unstable, but we will not succumb to the anger, fear, and hatred that has been unleashed in our nation and abroad. Will you help us spread love, by inviting other people to read and commit to perform the “daily love task” that will be assigned? We want to be apart of the solution and not the problem. Please join “The Love Campaign!” Love is contagious! If this sounds good to you, please complete the task below and encourage your friends and family to do the same.
Today’s love task is:
Please call an elderly family member or friend and encourage them. The holidays can be tough for those who are living without their spouses or children. Even with family around, sometimes the elders feel alone.
As the year comes to a close, it is a great time to reflect on the year and to be grateful for all that we do and do not have. As people fight, push, and do anything that they can to buy those items for loved ones, we should never forget the reason for the season. This season is meant to allow us to be “givers” and not just “takers.”
It is important to note that “the most” valuable gifts are often the ones that you cannot purchase. This year, please consider giving yourself and others the gifts that keep on giving. Here are a list of gifts that you could give yourself, your family, your friends, and those who may no longer be involved in your life:
- Love unconditionally
- Help someone in need
- Do chores for an elderly person or family member
- Faith to help someone who may believe that their life will never change for the better
- Donate time and resources to worthy causes
- Work hard to make someone else’s life better
These gifts are invaluable, so have a wonderful holiday!
Judith’s Personal Story
On January 22, 1973, my Mom had a stroke while she was 7 months pregnant with me. Once my Mom lost consciousness, my Dad was given the option to save his wife or to save me. My Dad told the doctors, “Save them both, I trust God!” On the date that I was born, Roe vs. Wade, the landmark Supreme Court case had just been enacted into law and my parents were given the legal right to abort me, since the doctors’ feared that I would be mentally challenged or a vegetable for the rest of my life.
I unashamedly believe that God, whom I call Jesus Christ, and the power of prayer saved my life and changed the course of it. I was able to maintain honor roll status my entire life and earn 15 scholastic and sports scholarship to attend the University of California, Los Angeles. I went on to earn a Master of Public Health Degree and I am currently working on my doctorate. I often wonder what my family or this world would be like if I were aborted. I also often think about what this world would be like if the millions of babies that have been aborted since 1973 were given the opportunity to live. Perhaps there would be no cancer? Perhaps the cure for most diseases would have been found? Who knows? Maybe the babies aborted would have been endowed with the answers that we seek, but we chose to ABORT them.
Do you want to talk more about the abortion topic? Please join Judith as she welcomes Ms. Ty Watson onto “The Virgin’s Island Radio Show” on Sunday, January 26, 2014 @ 3:30 p.m. Pacific Standard Time. Ms. Watson will discuss the history of abortion and the spiritual implications of this decision.
About Ms. Ty Watson
She holds several Associates Degrees (i.e. Business Administration and Computer Philosophy/Economics. She also holds two Bachelor’s Degrees in Psychology and World History and two minors in Kinesiology and Communications. She was born in love, May 1963, to William A. & Ruth P. Watson. Her motto is, “I’ve learned that I don’t have to have all the “answers”, but how to research to find them. There is ALWAYS something fascinating to learn and study.” Her goal is always to discover the Truth. Ms. Ty boldly proclaims, “Jesus Christ traded the ashes of my life for His beauty, joy & peace. He will do the same for anyone who asks.”
For the past six (6) months I have been deeply pondering this question. I hear people throw the word “love” around a lot, but I question if they really know what it means. In truth, I question if I really know what it means. I often wonder does my knowledge of the word “love” predict my future behavior or is more required? After examining myself, I am still left wondering whether or not I really know the meaning of love. In truth, I have realized that I have a long way to go in order to be a successful lover.
I have noticed that when I have been betrayed, lied on, belittled, disrespected, or treated inconsiderately that “love” is not my first resort. In fact, like most people, I become angry and then I remove myself from the offending party’s life and treat them as if they never existed. Usually, I will offer the offending party the opportunity to come together and discuss the issues, but if the discussion fails, then I seem to easily remove myself from the offender’s life. I am learning that even though I may be justified in having certain emotions, if I truly believe myself to be a Christian or someone who is trying to live my life as the Bible outlines, I should have a good grasp of this concept and a clear understanding of the noun and verb tenses of the word called “love.”
As I continue my journey to understanding and practicing love, I wanted to pose a few questions to my reading audience to find out if anyone else has a problem with “truly loving” others.
Issues that threaten the practice of love:
Put yourself into these examples below and think about how you think you would feel and react. Determine for yourself if love is a primary force in your thoughts, your will, and your emotions.
- When I am in a dispute with someone do I quickly forgive her/him?
- When I find out that someone I love has lied to me, what do I do?
- If my child participates in a lifestyle that I do not approve of would I still love him/her and tell him/her so, even if I disapproved of their behavior? It is always possible to love a person, but oppose their behavior.
- If my parent or parents suddenly fell ill and were unable to work and care for themselves would I take care of them, even if that meant that I would not have to work a 9 to 5 job, plus move them into my home, and care for them?
- If I have a parent that abandoned me, abused me, or was never available to me, what would I do? If this same parent became terminally ill, would I care for him or her?
- If I walked in on a best friend, whom I have known all of your life, who was having an affair with my spouse or significant other, what would I do?
- If I had family members who constantly started fights with me, lied on me, and tried to destroy me. Then one day they fall on hard times and they call me for financial help or ask if they can move in with me until they get on their feet. What would I do?
- If I co-signed for a friend or relative to purchase a car, a personal loan, or a property. One day, I receive a notice that this person has not been making payments and he/she totally neglected to tell me that they would not be able to pay me when I was clear with his/her that I could not afford this if they were ever to default. What would I do?
For me, I am learning that I need to work on areas or circumstances in my life that could potentially cause me to stop being a loving person by nature. Wow! I know that this will take a lot of work on my part, but I am willing to take the journey……how about you?
If you see yourself in any of these examples, please leave a comment on the “TVI:JWJ Site” and let us know how you would deal with the situation and whether or not you would still be able to show love. Also, if you think that showing love in all situations is NOT necessary or possible, I want to hear from you too.
Hi JWJ Readers!
I have one simple message for you all this week. In case no one has told you lately, I love you all and I thank you for your readership. Thanks so much for telling your family and friends about “The Virgin’s Island: Journey With Judith web site. We are now in 53 countries and climbing. We have exciting new things in the works that we hope you all will enjoy.
Stay encouraged and know that you are very much appreciated!
Dear Young Ladies,
Happy New Year! I just wanted to encourage you all through this post. I know that some of you may have finished your first semester for the school year and you may have received grades that were below what you expected. Some of you may be growing weary of constant bullying from mean kids at your school. While other young ladies may be dealing with a difficult home life.
No matter what hand life has dealt to you, remember that you are LOVED and you can make it. If there is a reason why you do not feel loved, then change your circle of friends or people that you count on. If you cannot change your circle of friends, then know that I sincerely care about your well being. You deserve the opportunity to experience the meaning of life……..which is LOVE.
Have a terrific week and enjoy your holiday vacation while it lasts.
Remember that I love you and I am always praying for you!
Dear Young Gentlemen,
Happy New Year!
I hope that you all had a terrific holiday. I know that most of you are still out of school and on vacation, so enjoy your down time.
I simply wanted to tell you all that you are SPECIAL, you are INCREDIBLE, you have so MUCH to OFFER the world, and your presence here on earth is important. Someday, you may grow up to be a doctor who finds a cure for cancer, a lawyer who wins a landmark case, an artist who brings diverse people together through his paintings, or a musician who spreads love through music.
Whatever God has in store for your destiny, just know that you are special and you are here for a reason. Keep working hard, keep achieving and pushing yourself, keep asking for help when you need it, keep being brave, keep showing vulnerability with people who make you feel safe, and keep moving forward by being a positive young man.
Remember that I love you and I am always praying for you!
This week’s blog is dedicated to my beloved Aunt Joy Patricia Calloway. As I write I am crying and deeply saddened by her recent passing on Sunday, September 12, 2010. Today, she was laid to rest on September 18, 2010 and her services were held at Fellowship Church in Martinsville, Virginia where my Uncle Bishop Phillip Calloway, Sr. presides. I tried to mentally prepare for the news of her passing for months as I heard that she was ill and I was unable to go and see her. I must admit that there is no amount of preparation that could have prepared me for the actual news. I am deeply saddened and I deeply feel the loss her physical presence. My siblings and I always knew that we not only had two (2) parents, we had three (3), and our third parent was Aunt Joy. Aunt Joy was there for my siblings and I. She was my Mom’s (her sister’s) best friend. She always sent gifts for birthdays and special occasions. She said, “I love you,” for no special reason. She was a jewel and I hope that she understood just how loved she was by her entire family. I remember how her face would light up when it was time for her to praise God. I admired her love of music and wanted desperately for her to teach me how to play the piano. I did not want the wonderful legacy of playing piano by ear to be lost. The second to the last time that I spoke to Aunt Joy, I really cried hard to her on the telephone and I told her that I would do whatever I could to help take care of her but I just needed to finish school. I hoped that she would hold on but I guess she could not. She cried too and seemed moved that I reacted to her in that way, but I could hear the pain and fear in her voice as she was having to deal with the issues of aging. I wanted more for her I wanted the best life possible for her. In fact, in my daily prayers I prayed that God would meet her every needs and give her peace and joy in place of pain and sorrow. I prayed that God would bless me financially so that I could bless her.
Aunt Joy was single by choice she never married or had any children of her own, but she believed that her nieces, nephews, and god-children all belonged to her. Aunt Joy was a quiet storm, she did not say too much but she was always thinking. She believed in having quality friendships and not just the quantity of acquaintances. She loved good company, good friends, and family. Aunt Joy was an awesome woman, aunt, sister, daughter, co-worker, piano player, and friend. She was a woman of good reputation. She was quiet and did not need much attention, but you could not ignore her spirit once she entered a room. She was comfortable in her own skin and never spent time being pretentious. She enjoyed the simple things in life like playing the weekly crossword puzzle. When I lived in Connecticut she asked me to take her crossword puzzle to the local newspaper (Connecticut Post?) in hopes that she would win the weekly prize. Aunt Joy was a peace-maker, she truly placed the needs of others above her own, despite the costs to herself.
With her whole heart she loved her family and hoped that we could all just “LOVE ONE ANOTHER AND GET ALONG”.
I cannot tell you how many times she said those words to me. I watched my Aunt Joy play the piano for all of the churches that she was a member of and at the church conventions. She played the piano without expecting any payment for her talent. She just enjoyed playing the piano, realizing that God had given her this terrific gift. Aunt Joy would turn her head to the right and break out singing “I Surrender All” in a soprano tone. I loved every moment of it even when I could not stop laughing at her tone. If she was having trouble with asthma when she started to sing she would look down in the audience and give me, my sisters, and cousins the cue to get up and come to the microphones to sing. It always amazed me that my entire family on both sides can sing beautifully. What a legacy!!!! . Lastly, my Aunt Joy was one of the most loving people that I had the pleasure of knowing.
To my family and all of us who remain, I believe that my Aunt Joy would want us to be forgiving and loving to one another. Simply put, we as a family need to get over old grudges and disagreements. We have to understand that we will disagree sometimes but we must always resolve. With that said, I would like to apologize to an older cousin. In regard to your comment on FB, I still believe that you should not have a made a comment like that in the open, but I am sorry if I hurt your feelings in any way. Aunt Joy would want us to get to know one another instead of judging each other on stories that we have heard. Aunt Joy always took the time to know people for her self. I believe that Aunt Joy would want us to live our best lives by personally developing ourselves in the areas where we need work. She would want us to support one another and show genuine concern for one another. To my family, I pray that we would work on being healthier mentally, physically, and financially. Let’s not wait for bad things (i.e. sickness, bankruptcy, depression, anxiety, anger, hatred, and unforgiveness) to happen to us before we decide to change unhealthy patterns. If we have a problem with our food choices and sugar consumption, like me, then let’s work on our personal issues. Why? Because, when we work on our personal issues, we are less judgmental and angry with the family and with the world. The truth is, when we are at peace with ourselves we are able to have a better relationship with God (whom I call Jesus Christ). Aunt Joy is at peace now and I believe that she would want those of us who remain to have peace on earth too.
In closing, in honor of Aunt Joy, I want to offer my condolences to the family (Calloway, Wall, and Llewellyn) and I hope that we are able to re-connect in ways that we never have before. I pray that we will be more forgiving as a family, more loving, healthier, more prosperous, and more connected. If I have offended anyone in my family in the past or present I am humbly seeking your forgiveness. Also, I want you all to know that I love you all enormously and I want a fresh start with all of you and I am offering the same fresh start to all of you.
As always, feel free to post a comment and enjoy your family and friends to the fullest as tomorrow is not promised.
For the past few days I have been thinking about my God-spot. For those who do not know my story I lost both of my parent by the age of thirty-six (36). I know that there are kids who lose both parents either to abandonment, death, or sickness so I am no special case, but losing someone that you love is difficult, to say the least. During the periods where I lost each parent I remember feeling devasted. Nothing mattered to me, not even my own well-being. The only constant that I had during these dark times was the reassurance that a loving God was there with me and that He will never leave me.
At this phase in my life where I am considering whether or not marriage is something that I really want, I must admit that it is my God-spot that keeps me moving toward my goals, while still feeling loved and cared about. Don’t get me wrong, I still have sisters, a brother, extended family, and friends who love me but those people still do not represent the deep committed companionship that I think marriage would represent, if I were married. I said all of this to say, no matter what I have faced in life. Despite my many losses, I continue to enjoy my life because my God-spot is filled. I was just grateful about this feeling today so I thought that I should write about it.
Do you think the God-spot is important in your life? If so, leave a comment.