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Cinco De Mayo is a day of Mexican tradition and honor. In 1861, the Mexican army defeated the French army even though the French army far outnumbered the Mexican army.
Enjoy family and friends! Please do NOT drink and drive.
Wikipedia (2013). Cinco de Mayo. Retrieved from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cinco_de_Mayo
For millions of Christians around the world, this a wonderful time of year to remember the sacrifice that Jesus Christ made when he died on what we now call Good Friday and rose again on the third day to redeem mankind’s sins. Christ took the sins of mankind onto himself, and in doing so, he gave us eternal life.
This season is the time where Spring is in the air and the temperature is perfect, so if you have little ones, enjoy the Easter egg hunts and gift baskets.
Have a happy and loving day with family and friends!
Enjoy your day with family, friends, and pets. Try not to allow the small annoyances that may try to creep in to annoy you or ruin your day. Remember that the birth of Jesus is the reason for the season. He (God) gave us his son to show us His unwavering love for us. Let’s love no matter what circumstances may come our way.
Wishing everyone a Happy Thanksgiving Day!
I will be spending time with the people that I LOVE the most……family and friends.
Life is short and tomorrow is NOT promised so I intend to ENJOY my today.
I am grateful for life, health, and the ability to give and receive LOVE. Leave a comment and tell us what you are grateful for today.
This week’s blog is dedicated to my beloved Aunt Joy Patricia Calloway. As I write I am crying and deeply saddened by her recent passing on Sunday, September 12, 2010. Today, she was laid to rest on September 18, 2010 and her services were held at Fellowship Church in Martinsville, Virginia where my Uncle Bishop Phillip Calloway, Sr. presides. I tried to mentally prepare for the news of her passing for months as I heard that she was ill and I was unable to go and see her. I must admit that there is no amount of preparation that could have prepared me for the actual news. I am deeply saddened and I deeply feel the loss her physical presence. My siblings and I always knew that we not only had two (2) parents, we had three (3), and our third parent was Aunt Joy. Aunt Joy was there for my siblings and I. She was my Mom’s (her sister’s) best friend. She always sent gifts for birthdays and special occasions. She said, “I love you,” for no special reason. She was a jewel and I hope that she understood just how loved she was by her entire family. I remember how her face would light up when it was time for her to praise God. I admired her love of music and wanted desperately for her to teach me how to play the piano. I did not want the wonderful legacy of playing piano by ear to be lost. The second to the last time that I spoke to Aunt Joy, I really cried hard to her on the telephone and I told her that I would do whatever I could to help take care of her but I just needed to finish school. I hoped that she would hold on but I guess she could not. She cried too and seemed moved that I reacted to her in that way, but I could hear the pain and fear in her voice as she was having to deal with the issues of aging. I wanted more for her I wanted the best life possible for her. In fact, in my daily prayers I prayed that God would meet her every needs and give her peace and joy in place of pain and sorrow. I prayed that God would bless me financially so that I could bless her.
Aunt Joy was single by choice she never married or had any children of her own, but she believed that her nieces, nephews, and god-children all belonged to her. Aunt Joy was a quiet storm, she did not say too much but she was always thinking. She believed in having quality friendships and not just the quantity of acquaintances. She loved good company, good friends, and family. Aunt Joy was an awesome woman, aunt, sister, daughter, co-worker, piano player, and friend. She was a woman of good reputation. She was quiet and did not need much attention, but you could not ignore her spirit once she entered a room. She was comfortable in her own skin and never spent time being pretentious. She enjoyed the simple things in life like playing the weekly crossword puzzle. When I lived in Connecticut she asked me to take her crossword puzzle to the local newspaper (Connecticut Post?) in hopes that she would win the weekly prize. Aunt Joy was a peace-maker, she truly placed the needs of others above her own, despite the costs to herself.
With her whole heart she loved her family and hoped that we could all just “LOVE ONE ANOTHER AND GET ALONG”.
I cannot tell you how many times she said those words to me. I watched my Aunt Joy play the piano for all of the churches that she was a member of and at the church conventions. She played the piano without expecting any payment for her talent. She just enjoyed playing the piano, realizing that God had given her this terrific gift. Aunt Joy would turn her head to the right and break out singing “I Surrender All” in a soprano tone. I loved every moment of it even when I could not stop laughing at her tone. If she was having trouble with asthma when she started to sing she would look down in the audience and give me, my sisters, and cousins the cue to get up and come to the microphones to sing. It always amazed me that my entire family on both sides can sing beautifully. What a legacy!!!! . Lastly, my Aunt Joy was one of the most loving people that I had the pleasure of knowing.
To my family and all of us who remain, I believe that my Aunt Joy would want us to be forgiving and loving to one another. Simply put, we as a family need to get over old grudges and disagreements. We have to understand that we will disagree sometimes but we must always resolve. With that said, I would like to apologize to an older cousin. In regard to your comment on FB, I still believe that you should not have a made a comment like that in the open, but I am sorry if I hurt your feelings in any way. Aunt Joy would want us to get to know one another instead of judging each other on stories that we have heard. Aunt Joy always took the time to know people for her self. I believe that Aunt Joy would want us to live our best lives by personally developing ourselves in the areas where we need work. She would want us to support one another and show genuine concern for one another. To my family, I pray that we would work on being healthier mentally, physically, and financially. Let’s not wait for bad things (i.e. sickness, bankruptcy, depression, anxiety, anger, hatred, and unforgiveness) to happen to us before we decide to change unhealthy patterns. If we have a problem with our food choices and sugar consumption, like me, then let’s work on our personal issues. Why? Because, when we work on our personal issues, we are less judgmental and angry with the family and with the world. The truth is, when we are at peace with ourselves we are able to have a better relationship with God (whom I call Jesus Christ). Aunt Joy is at peace now and I believe that she would want those of us who remain to have peace on earth too.
In closing, in honor of Aunt Joy, I want to offer my condolences to the family (Calloway, Wall, and Llewellyn) and I hope that we are able to re-connect in ways that we never have before. I pray that we will be more forgiving as a family, more loving, healthier, more prosperous, and more connected. If I have offended anyone in my family in the past or present I am humbly seeking your forgiveness. Also, I want you all to know that I love you all enormously and I want a fresh start with all of you and I am offering the same fresh start to all of you.
As always, feel free to post a comment and enjoy your family and friends to the fullest as tomorrow is not promised.
Name: Jeffrey Hudson
Occupation: Los Angeles Fire Department
Number of Years in Occupation: 21 years
(Judith) What is your marital status? Do you have children? How has your role as a husband or father affected your career?
(Jeffrey) I am married. I have two boys. I have a dangerous career and because I am married with a family I have to think twice about the danger part of the job. I try to preserve my body. Sometimes there are things that I cannot oversee like seeing my sons take out the trash. Sometimes my sons are a little inconsistent on doing chores because I am not there to follow up.
(Judith) During your early years, what were your goals? In the early years, how did you plan to achieve your goals?
(Jeffrey) My goal was to make myself valuable or attractive to a woman. I did not use profanity in front of women. I wanted to be a gentleman so that I would be attractive to women. I went to college to get a good job and have a nice home so that I would be more attractive to the opposite sex. Early on, some of my goals were surrounded by other people’s perceptions.
(Judith) Did you face any hardships that tried to derail your goals? How did you handle the situation? What was your personal turning point?
(Jeffrey) Yes, I did not graduate from college. I was not prepared for college as well as I needed to be. At that time, I had poor study habits and I was not organized. Originally, I planned on being a Mechanical Engineer and the second was a Professional Singer. When I was a teenager, I wanted to be a Singer. As I got a little older, in my late teens, I decided to go to college. I did not consider being a Fire Fighter until I was in my twenties.
(Judith) As a man, what tools did you need to be successful?
(Jeffrey) My hope of becoming successful was to keep attempting to do something until something worked. I did not have everything figured out but I had the confidence to know that I would be good at something and that I would be able to turn whatever I did into a livelihood.
“God had my life all planned out, regardless of what I would have done.”
(Judith) If you could say anything to your children about how they have impacted your life what would it be? What advice would you give to your children about being successful personally, professionally, and spiritually?
(Jeffrey) I understand that what I do affects my children. I realize that I am making an impact on their lives so I have to be aware of that. “Realistically think of what you could be and start to pursue it at an early age. As soon as you know what you want to be then start preparing yourself for that goal, If you want to be an entrepreneur, business person or invent a video game you need to learn as much as you can about what you are interested in. Focus on your goal, and go for it.”
In terms of spirituality, I believe in getting the children involved in something spiritual. Begin the child’s spiritual journey when they are young and make it a routine. “Love the Lord and learn what He is teaching you.”
(Judith) What advice would you give to young men or other men in regard to achieving their goals?
(Jeffrey) Try to determine what direction you want to go in early and continue to pursue that goal no matter what. “Don’t be afraid to express yourself and embrace what you want to be. Whatever career you choose, pick it because you like and not because it’s not the popular thing to do right now.” Try not to allow peer pressure to move you away from being a pioneer. For example, you may have to miss a party or two to pursue your dreams. If you are able to work hard and achieve your goal first, then you can have fun and enjoy yourself after the goal has been completed.”
For those that do not know, I recently lost my Daddy. When I was a little girl my Daddy spent hours with me as he was disabled by sicknesses. He worked despite his sicknesses, but his conditions caused him to be able to spend quality time with me. My Daddy was a great example of what a “real man” should be. Many women today are always asking me, “Where are the real men?” I don’t have those answers as it appears that many men are simply “male” but they do not possess the attributes of a man. I am not writing this blog today to bash men but I am writing this blog to celebrate those of you who are MANLY and not just MALE.
I celebrate every man who:
- Loves and worships God.
- Cooks and cleans the house for his family to lighten the load on his wife.
- Works longs hours to support his family. Takes on additional jobs so that the family will not notice when hard times have hit.
- Is committed and faithful to his marriage vows if he is married.
- If he is not married is waiting and preparing for his wife, by protecting himself from sexually transmitted disease, sickness, addictions, working to keep his credit good, has his own housing and transportation, etc.
- Tells the truth to himself and to others around him no matter the cost.
- Makes and takes care of his children despite the sacrifice to himself. Takes care of his children despite if he is with the mother of his children or not.
- Protects his wife and family and considers them sacred as he would give his life for them if danger were present.
- Teaches his daughters that they are valuable and that they do not have to “accept” any kind of man but rather a quality man. Gives his daughters the confidence to know that they can do anything.
- Teaches his sons how to love, show emotion when needed, and how to respectfully treat the women in their lives. Teaches his sons how to make wise decisions.
- Honors and helps to care for his parents and grandparents.
- Selflessly does whatever (as long as it is legal) he needs to do to make his family’s life better.
- Brings honor to his job. Whatever he does, he does it well, and with great pride.
- Protects and helps to build his community.
- Works, works, and then works some more to provide for those that he is responsible for and for those he is not responsible for (I know that I put “work” as an attribute twice but I wanted to stress its importance).
For all of you wonderful men I CELEBRATE YOU, as you are much like the man that gave me life. For all of you men who are doing the right things, keep doing the right things and know that you are APPRECIATED.