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The Virgin’s Island Radio Show Presents: “Sexual Purity on Campus”

Join Minister Emanuel Osborne on Sunday, April 6, 2014 at 3:30 p.m. Pacific Standard Time and 6:30 p.m. Eastern Standard Time as he discusses “Purity on Campus.”  Click the link below to hear the radio show on the date of the airing or listen as an archive after the show airs.

Minister Emanuel Osborne’s Biography

Emanuel Osborne is a 22 year old Minister under MTN Outreach. He was born in Washington D.C as a child, but later relocated to Maryland.  He  travels often preaching the word of God throughout the DMV (D.C, Maryland, Virginia)  and the United States.  In 2010, by the leading of the Holy Spirit, he started an abstinence movement, called the “Proud Virgin Movement” (PVM). The goal of PVM is to create a  counter culture movement to combat the sex complex of society. PVM seeks to educate virgins about keeping themselves and those who are celibate about saving themselves for marriage. PVM’s motto is, “We believe in doing what’s pure not what’s popular!”



Relationship Question from a TVI:JWJ Reader

Why Abstinence?

Hey Young Ladies and Young Gentleman:

Check out this video and let me know what you all think. Leave your comments and as usual I will read them and comment. Have a great and safe week!

Do You Require a Blood Test?


The other day I was talking to a young lady and I thought that our conversation was really worth sharing.  The young lady and I were discussing relationships.  I was moved by her story of wanting to be loved but I did not understand her quest to find someone (a young man) to love her.  For all of you who know me, I don’t hold my tongue when someone’s life is at stake.  I explained that abstinence is my best answer for her desire.  I told her that I know abstinence sounds difficult but it is not difficult when it becomes a way of life.  I cared enough about that young lady to tell her what I believe to be the truth even though the truth is not popular these days. First, I validated her need for wanting love.  I told her that I love her and I care enough about her to help her discover herself.  She said that she has discovered herself and that she is now looking for someone to love her.  I told her that in the Bible Proverbs 18:22 says, “He that finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of the Lord.”  The young lady said , “So, what does that old scripture have to do with me here and now?”  I told her that she just asked an excellent question (laughing).  I asked her to explain to me what she understood the scripture to mean.  She said that it seems like the guy who finds a wife will find favor of God.  I then asked her to repeat to me what she told me earlier.  She said, ” I want to find love!”  I asked if she wants to be a wife.  She said, “Of course!”  I told her that based on this scripture she does not have to go looking for a mate, it is up to God and her husband to find her.  She had never heard of that concept and I know why.  I told her that our culture today (movies, magazines, books, etc) tells girls and women that it is alright to be promiscuous and go after anyone you want, but they do not present the consequences for those actions.  She understood but was still grappling with this new concept.  Next, I told her that God gave all people the power of “choice”.  I told her that this culture will present an idea and tell you that you have the freedom to do whatever it is they are promoting, but once you do the thing that is being promoted you become a slave to it.  You ever notice how cigarette and alcohol advertisements always make it look cool and sexy to use those items.  Why?  Because those advertisements are meant to seduce us into trying them.  They know that once many of us try cigarettes or alcohol that there is a great chance that we could become addicted and this will cause their (companies) profits to soar.  You may say I don’t need alcohol to have fun, if so, try not having any alcohol at the next social event that you attend.  If you are able to say no, then you are not a slave to the item, but if you cannot do it then you may have been enslaved by the very thing that you were told was your freedom.  So, if drinking is your choice, then you can choose to drink or not drink at your own discretion, right?  I said all of that to say, things that will eventually enslave you are not from God as He does not set us (his children) up to be servants, in the Bible God calls us “joint heirs” through Jesus Christ.  This simply means that if you accept Jesus Christ as your savior that we become joint-heirs or equal heirs of the promise of abundant life.  I explained to the young lady that God is so loving that he gives her the choice to serve and to know Him or to reject Him entirely.  I explained that this is our example of true love.  True love is willing to let you go even if letting you go could ruin your life.  I wanted her to also understand that it is not her responsibility to chase a man and find love.  It is better to have a man state his intentions and/or love for you, you pray about his true heart for you (or watch his behavior and listen to his words to see if they match), and if all is well, you may consider a marriage relationship with him.  I told her that all of these stages require her choices.  I advised that she also has the choice to go about here and there looking for love.

The young lady understood but was NOT convinced that any of this applied to her. She said that she needed to find the right guy by having sex with guys because she needed to find the right one.  Understanding her point of view and respecting her choice, I asked her if she requires a recent blood test from each of the young men that she sleeps with.  She said, “No!”  I said, well if you do not believe or understand the spiritual information that I just gave to you, perhaps you will believe the medical community.  You have to protect yourself as you can contract sexually transmitted diseases.  As a young lady, if you become infected with a disease and become pregnant, you could pass that disease along to your unborn child.  She really thought about this idea for a moment and asked me, “What do I do if they refuse to give me a blood test?”  I said,”What do you think you should do?”  She said, “Not sleep with them?”  I told her that this seems logical to me as her life is worth protecting.  Also, if she is supposed to go out and find love it would be silly to die of a disease in the process.  She agreed.  I added that the man who loves her would not mind divulging his medical status to her, right?  She nodded and the discussion ended.

Disclaimer:  I know that many of you will not agree with me, but I have a right to my opinion just as you have a right to yours (smiling).  Also, remember the young lady asked for MY opinion so I gave it to her. 

My question to all men and women (potential life-carriers) this week is, do you require a blood test from the person that you have sex with?  Is your life worth living?  Do you value your life?  Do you believe that having sex with people you do not know is safe? Why or why not?

“Girl, Either She’s Lying or She Don’t Like Men!”

I know that the title of today’s topic is not grammatically correct but it is a direct quote.

A few years back I was a Supervisor for an insurance company.  I had a crew that worked under me of 10 people.  Most of my crew members were women.  These women did not like me for some reason.  I treated my crew with respect but I was adamant that they would do a great job at work and present themselves and my unit as a professional unit.  One of the women in my crew said that she would like to join me on breaks when I walked around the neighborhood. I said, “Sure, I would love the company!”  One day while walking my crew member said, “You are so beautiful Ms. Judith, do have a man?  I said, “No.”  She then asked, “Do you have kids?”  I said, “No.”  We kept walking around the neighborhood that day but she was clearly perplexed.  I could tell that she wanted to ask more questions, but she did not because I was her boss.  The next day came around and it was time for our walk around the neighborhood.  This time she said, “You know what Ms. Judith any love is alright.”  I said, “I don’t understand, what do you mean by any love?”  She said I mean if you are attracted to women.  I laughed hysterically!!! 

Every since I was a little girl I have always loved men better than women.  I always hung around my Dad and Brother because I liked the way they were more emotionally stable than my sisters.  One day my sisters’ would be willing to play with me and the next day they would be mean and tell me to buzz off, so at an early age I decided that I would always have more men in my life than women.  Anyway, I told my crew member that I do not like men I LOVE them.  I am a woman who is and who has always been attracted in every way to men.  When I see a man that I find attractive, I have naughty thoughts just like other women, but the difference is I am making a conscious effort NOT to fulfill those desires because I believe that God is watching me and I do not want to displease Him.  After I explained myself to my crew member, I asked her why she thought I liked women.  She said that people in the office were talking about me and since I did not have a man or any children she figured I must not like men.  She also said that she heard some of the other girls in my crew say, “Either she’s lying about not having sex before marriage or she don’t like men!” 

I am here to say that I am not lying about being a virgin and I do love men.  People are so funny, when you are able to do things that they cannot do or when you are able to do things that they do not understand how to do then they convince themselves that such a feat cannot be done.  Well, I am proof that abstinence can be done because I am doing (or not doing) it.  Lol!

I Met Him at a Party, But Why?

When I hung out with friends I was approached by a man who said, “I know that you have a man, but I think that you are beautiful.”  The unknown guy began a conversation with me and I told him that I did not have a man.  A few minutes into the conversation I was asked the following questions:

1. Are you married?  Have you ever been married?  Do you want to be married?

2. Do you have any children?

3. Are you available later?

After I answered the guy’s questions, I asked him a few questions:

1. Are you married?  Have you ever been married?  Do you have a girlfriend?  Do you have a woman in your life that loves you but maybe you don’t love her back?  Do you have anyone else in your life male or female that thinks that they are in a relationship with you (if you all know like I know you need to ask deep probing questions and not just scratch the surface because there are men out there that will deceive you)? I am asking these questions in a joking way, but I am still watching and listening for his responses.

2. Do you have children?  Do you support them financially (to me this questions is majorly important because any man who can leave behind and not support children would at any moment leave behind and not support me)?

Next, we are sitting there and in usual form I was making jokes and making him laugh.  Before I knew it, the gentleman began to turn the conversation towards his desire to have sex with me.  At that moment, the room went dark for me and the imaginary spotlight turned on me.  I thought to myself, “He has no idea how ignorant he sounds right now!”  First off, I don’t know him!!!!  I hold an advanced degree in public health and you will never have sex with me without first being married to me and second without having a full blood work-up  & examination by a doctor’s office.  I hope that everyone understands that there is NO relationship worth dying for.  African-American women, especially those living in Southern regions, have and are at the highest risk for HIV/AIDS, not to mention the rise in Herpes cases all across America.  I hope that all women require this much of men but I know these days they do not.

My Daddy and brother used to talk when I was a young girl.  They would laugh because they understood that men put women into CATEGORIES. Men think that some women are just for fun so they use them in that way because those women ALLOW themselves to be used.  Men think that other women are for short-term commitments, while they (men) get their emotional and physical needs met.  Lastly, there is another category of  women who are for settling down with and raising a family.  We always have to ask ourselves as women, which category we want to be in because in reality WE CHOOSE the type of woman we will be categorized as.  Depending on how you represent, men will treat a woman accordingly.

So my question always becomes,  since I present like a descent women, I am dressed cutely yet appropriately, I am educated, I have class in varying situations, and I am friendly when approached, then why do men treat me like I am in the fun category?  I just have to ask because I am tired of disrespectful men approaching me like I am the “jump off” woman when I am indeed “a lady” and I expect to be treated as such.  I think that maybe the men of today are so used to having many women to “play” with, that they do not understand when they have met a “woman”.  So I believe, if a man does not know when he has met a woman, then he does not deserve to know or have a woman.  Whenever I see a man fall into this category I jokingly use the song line from the TLC Hip Hop group of the 1990’s, “Don’t go chasing waterfalls, please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you are used to.”  Needless to say, this chance meeting with this guy was going nowhere. I met him at a party, but why?  Lol!

Let me know what you think and what your experiences have been.


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