I received this question from Stephanie R. when I was preparing for the JWJ Blog about a year ago. I always want to have open relationship dialogue on JWJ because I think that it is important.
I think that the answer to this question is very interesting. Men that play relationship games are not mature men yet, they are merely males. When I was a little girl my Dad spent a lot of time with me. He took me school shopping every year until I was 14 years old. He took me to the bank and taught me how to bank and how to save money. He took me out to eat every week just to talk to me about what was on my mind. During one of our outings, my Dad told me, “Judi, when a man wants you, he will do anything to show you that he wants you to be his woman. He will not stop at anything (in a positive way not a dangerous one) to make you his woman. He will protect you, respect you, provide for you, and love you.” If you meet a man that does not show you the adoration and respect that you deserve then understand that he is not the one for you. My Dad said that a man should be able to tell the woman that he loves her first. The man is supposed to state his intentions with a woman and then the woman decides if she is interested in his offer. A woman should be waiting until the man reveals his love for her. If he does not reveal his love then you have to understand that he does NOT love you.
I think that if a woman notices that a man is playing games, she should sit down and have a talk with him. Find out if he is really playing games or not, perhaps he has some kind of insecurity that he is trying to hide. If the guy cannot tell you how he feels for and about himself, then you have a problem. Furthermore, if a man cannot clearly tell you what he thinks about you and how he feels about you (2 different questions), then I would suggest leaving that guy alone.
What do you all think about this topic? Why do some men like to play games instead of just being honest in a relationship? I would love to hear from both men and women on this one. Let’s talk!