Archive for November, 2012
I hope that you all are having a wonderful week.
I would like for you all to think about what the words “self worth” mean to you. Do you love your yourself? How do you determine if you value yourself? Why? Do you allow others to mistreat you? Do you wait for other people to take the lead in your relationship? Why or why not?
Let’s discuss this topic together. Leave any comments or questions and I will answer respond if your comment requires it.
Have a great week!
Right now in my life, I am single by choice. When people ask me what it is like to be a 39-year old virgin, I have a hard time answering. It’s no big deal to me because I spend my time studying and working towards my personal goals, so I do not feel like I am lacking anything. I feel that God takes really good care of me, so I do not feel empty without a man in my life right now.
Some people try to give me advice on how to attract a man or what steps I need to make to get a man. I think that this notion is really funny. I have been approached and have dated many men, but none of them loved me the way I wanted to be loved; therefore I did not take their advances to the next level.
Some women feel that I need to grab the bull by the horns and find the man that I want. The problem with this notion is that I am very old fashioned. I believe that I am supposed to be pursued by a man, but it is my choice whether or not I think the guy is the right fit for me.
I do NOT believe that every guy that approaches me will be able to love me the way that I want to be loved. These days very few men even ask me the questions or try to get to know me, in order to find out what makes me feel loved. I feel that if a man is NOT willing to do the work necessary to make me fall in love with him, then he is NOT the man for me. I want more than a male, I want a man (best friend, protector, provider, and lover).
For me, dating in the 21st century reminds me of my high school and post college years when I used to play softball. My coaches always said, “Judith, wait for the right pitch!” I got really good at waiting on the right pitch, so much so, that there were only two options for me. Either the Pitcher would have to walk me or I was going to get a hit. I was so skilled at waiting for my pitch that opposing team Pitchers began to realize that I was not going to swing at a bad pitch. I realize now that I have adopted these principles into my dating or non-dating life. Similar to my softball analogy, I just cannot take any guy that presents himself into my life because I am waiting for the right guy to manifest, so that I can take a swing at starting a relationship that is tailor made for me.
I would love to hear your comments on this subject. Drop me a line today.
Is it just me or do you notice that with the rising cost of living, you may have to alter how and where you buy groceries?
Do you think that only the wealthy should be able to buy organic food from places like Whole Foods? In terms of costs, I notice that being able to afford organic foods (i.e. fruits, meats, and vegetables) is difficult, especially when other expenses are rising (i.e. clothes, gas, medical, and dental expenses).
I think as a society, we have to be diligent in how and where we purchase our foods. Every person has the right to eat healthy foods that are not filled with pesticides, genetically modified organisms, or any other ingredients that are foreign to our bodies and our ability to digest the food.
So, if human existence comes down to whether or not you and your family can afford organic fruits, meats, and vegetables, what will you and your family do to ensure survival? Do you think this is fair? How can we make whole foods more affordable?
Please leave a comment and let me know how you feel and think.
Today was the anniversary of the day that I lost my Mom. Usually, I withdraw from everything on this day. In the past, I usually stay indoors all day and bake all of my favorite desserts. Today, I made an important change, I actually worked for a while which is very different for me.
While at work someone brought in cupcakes for Halloween. When presented with the cupcakes and with the emotional desire to make my life a little sweeter with sweet treats, I made a different choice.
I did not grab a cupcake or even have the desire to. This time I thought, “I don’t want to hurt myself.” Even though I have used sweets in the past to make life a little sweeter. I have chosen to live a healthier life. I ask my self, “How can I live a healthy life if I keep making the wrong choices?”
So today, I made a better choice. This was my personal victory. I did it! I noticed that this was not the painstaking decision that I had struggled with in the past, this time, it was simply a C-H-O-I-C-E. Wow, I had an aha moment today.