Archive for December, 2011
2011 was a quite a year! There were great highs and great lows, but we endured them all. The Virgin’s Island: Journey With Judith Blog is looking for wonderful things in the upcoming year.
Thanks for your loyalty to the site. We invite you to keep checking the site for bigger and better things in the upcoming year. We wish you all blessings, great health, renewed energy, and much success!
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For more information about how to quit smoking, please see the resource links below. Also, if you do not live in the Los Angeles area, you can email us and tell us what state or country that you live in and we will try to provide resources in your area. Leave a comment or any questions here too.
Los Angeles County Public Health (LACPH) (2011). Tobacco control and prevention program. Retrieved from http://www.lapublichealth.org/tob/.
LA Quits (2011). It’s quitting time LA! Retrieved from http://www.laquits.com
Did you know that prayer is a conversation? Have you ever prayed and then thought that your prayer did not matter or was not heard?
Perhaps, the reason we think our prayers are not heard or answered is because we do not take the time to listen after prayer. Prayer is really a simple spiritual exercise. The conversation of prayer requires that there is two-way communication.
I personally believe in a higher power, whom I call Jesus Christ. First, I thank Him for being God and for not leaving me here to navigate life on my own. Next, I tell Him what is on my mind. This may include specific needs, prayer for others, and quoting scriptures that support my prayer. Again, giving thanks is a great way to end a prayer. Lastly, after I have finished praying, then I sit still and listen.
How do you listen to God after prayer? Sometimes you will get an idea that is much like a message coming in through the conscience (soul:mind, will, emotions). For example, have you ever been on the verge of going somewhere or doing something? Based on a feeling or inclination that you had, you decided not to do or go to a particular place because you had a bad feeling or you just did not feel like going. After deciding not to go, you found out that something bad happened or that the event was cancelled. Listening in prayer is much like that experience. Some people also call it intuition. Prayer can guide, heal, inspire, instruct, protect, provide, etc. Whatever your specific need is, God through prayer, can and will provide.
Also, when you do not have much time, you can still pray. You can pray in your car on the way to work, on the way home from work, while walking, or before bed. Prayer can happen anywhere and God can hear you no matter where you are or what you are going through. Please be encouraged and whenever possible, join in the conversation of prayer.
Please leave a comment and tell me if you believe in prayer. Why or why not?
Dear Young Ladies and Young Men,
I hope that you all are having a great holiday season and remembering that the reason for the season is love and giving.
Last week, I spent time with a relative. The relative and I were talking about life and catching up on the things that have happened in each of our lives. After a few minutes into the conversation, I noticed that my relative has become a negative person, also known as a Debbie Downer. In the first 10-15 minutes of our conversation she made the following statements: “I’m not too smart.” “It seems like I’m prone for bad luck.” “When bad things happened, I’m usually right there.”
At first I did not say anything to her, but after a while, I asked her if she thought that she was being negative. She said, “No, I’m just stating the obvious.” I know that there are not too many people who place much value in the words that they speak, but I want to remind you that you have the “power” to receive what you speak and what you believe.
During this holiday season and beyond, speak life-filled words over yourself, your family, and your friends. Did you know that many people who have become successful started out by simply making positive confessions, believing, and working towards their dream even if they only took baby steps? With the power of positive thinking and speaking, people have gone from poverty to wealth, from sickness to health, from being negative to being completely positive. Make it a point to stop yourself when you are about to say something negative about yourself or others. Keep a diary of your positive confessions and how many days you have participated in this exercise. I know that this exercise will change your life. Try it! You deserve the best life that God has in store for you.
Happy Holidays and remember that I love you and I am always praying for you.
After you practice this exercise, please leave a comment and let me know how it worked for you.
I am in my local library and I cannot believe what my ears and eyes are witnessing. First off, people are speaking in full voice and yelling across the library. The librarians are joining in by laughing and speaking loudly to customers in need of help. Small children are squealing and yelling. Oh yea, and someone just walked past me that smells terrible. Lastly, I made the terrible mistake of sitting near the computers and people are clamoring to secure a computer. Where is a doctoral student supposed to study if not in the library?
I love my local community but it looks like I need to commute to the UCLA library in order to actually study in peace. Lol!
How are the libraries in your community? Do you rent books, rent videos, or study there? Why or why not? Leave a comment here and tell me your thoughts.
Dear Young Ladies and Young Gentleman,
I hope that you all are doing well.
Today is December 9, 2011 and for many people this has been a tough year. You may live in a family where your parents or relatives have lost jobs, developed an illness, or perhaps you and your family were forced to move in with relatives. No matter what your particular situation, please remember that life can sometimes be uncomfortable. Life sometimes changes in ways that we are not prepared for it to change, but nothing lasts forever, whether good or bad.
I want to encourage you all to be enduring like the ant. Without fail, the ant works hard to save food for the winter. The ant works together with other ants. You can often see an ant in the summer carrying a piece of food that is way too big for him in an effort to take the food back to the ant-hole and store it so that they can eat and live throughout the winter. Like the ant, even if you are carrying a burden or problem that is bigger than you are, just know that you CAN and WILL make it! Like the ant, you just have to endure the season that you are in, and know that a new season is on the way.
Remember that I love you and that I am always praying for you.
I was pulling up to a gas pump about 4 years ago when I noticed a man blowing snot out of his nose with his bare hands and no tissue. He let the snot fall right in front of the pump and used his hands to wipe off any excess snot. Next, he picked up the pump with those same “nasty hands” and began to pump gas.
I was completely disgusted! At that moment, I vowed NEVER to use my bare hands to pump gas. I knew that the gas pump and the hundreds of people that touch them make the pump a cesspool for germs and infection. These days, with the high cost of gas prices, it would be a shame to pick up germs from the pump after I have already been gouged at the gas pump financially. Lol!
Do you use gloves at the gas pump? Do you think that it’s a good idea? If you think that I have gone too far with this idea, let me know. Please leave a comment and share your opinion?
Dear Young Ladies and Young Men:
I hope that your lives and school have been going well. I hope that you all enjoyed your Thanksgiving holiday with family and friends.
This week I want to speak to you all about loyalty. Loyalty is the ability to be faithful to someone or something. I want to encourage you all to develop your ability to be faithful. If you believe in God, then show allegiance to your faith and live accordingly. If you are a friend to someone, be sure to be the kind of friend that you would want someone to be to you. Tell your friends the truth, be kind, supportive, and be a stable force in their lives no matter what they may go through. When you give your word to a friend about something be sure to keep it. In life, I have had five friends that have been loyal to me and they have made the rough times in my life bearable.
I must admit there have been times in life when being loyal to someone may be difficult. For instance, when I was in high school there were kids who were unpopular. If I saw someone picking on an unpopular kid, I would say something to make that bully stop because I was popular in high school. In high school and even today, I do not care if other people do not associate with someone because they are considered un-cool. If I wanted to befriend someone I would do so, and I was loyal to our friendship no matter the cost.
As always, remember that I love you and I am always praying for you.
Are you a loyal friend? How does being a loyal friend make your feel? If you are not loyal, would you like to learn to be? I want to hear from you. Please leave a comment.
I received a comment from a lady who explained how she has been emotionally, verbally, and physically abused. She asked me, “How do you know when you should leave a relationship?”
I must admit that this is a tough question. It’s tough because most people are afraid to discuss issues like these. Some people believe that domestic issues should be the problem of those involved in it, however, the reality is children in the home and the community suffer when domestic violence gets out of hand. As a child, I witnessed many terrible and horrific acts of abuse between couples. I heard men tell their wives that they were worthless, stupid, and a big nothing. As a kid, I remember feeling bad and I wondered how people could act so ugly to one another. In another example, I witnessed physical abuse against women. I had no clue how to fix the problem, but the whole atmosphere made me feel afraid and embarrassed for all parties involved.
I do not claim to be an expert in this area, but I do have a few methods that I use when making choices about whether or not I can continue in a relationship with anyone. If I notice that a friend or romantic partner is belittling, constantly critical, or demeaning I will not stay in that relationship. I believe that if someone does not enhance my life they do not deserve to be apart of my life. Also, I feel that when physical abuse is involved, I would assess how much that I love myself. I think if I love myself, I will NOT allow anyone to use me as a punching bag because I know that I AM valuable. If I had children and they were witnessing me being abused, or if God forbid they were being abused, I would trust God and leave that situation immediately. I think that children deserve the right to grow up in a loving and peaceful environment. Lastly, true love never intends to hurt another person. If someone keeps hurting you over and over, then I would evaluate whether or not this person is unaware of what they are doing or if they are intentionally being cruel. Next, I would tell the person how his/her words or behavior make me feel. If the person refuses to change the behavior after I have expressed my feelings, then I can conclude that he/she is intentionally trying to hurt me.
So, in answer to my reader’s question, I would leave a relationship when it is dangerous to my mental and physical health and to the health of my offspring (if I had any). I do not want to give the impression that I am a proponent of walking out on relationship because I am not. If a relationship is salvageable and both parties are willing to work on the issues and stop violence or abuse, then it may be worth it to work it out. This blog is for situations that are beyond help and have become a danger to all involved.
Have you been involved in a relationship that was abusive (i.e. mental, verbal, physical)? How did you handle your situation? Do you think that you made the right decision? Why or why not?
Please leave a comment as your comments may help other people who are in tough relationships right now.