Archive for August, 2010

“The God-Spot”


For the past few days I have been thinking about my God-spot.  For those who do not know my story I lost both of my parent by the age of thirty-six (36).  I know that there are kids who lose both parents either to abandonment, death, or sickness so I am no special case, but losing someone that you love is difficult, to say the least.  During the periods where I lost each parent I remember feeling devasted.  Nothing mattered to me, not even my own well-being.  The only constant that I had during these dark times was the reassurance that a loving God was there with me and that He will never leave me.

At this phase in my life where I am considering whether or not marriage is something that I really want, I must admit that it is my God-spot that keeps me moving toward my goals, while still feeling loved and cared about.  Don’t get me wrong, I still have sisters, a brother, extended family, and friends who love me but those people still do not represent the deep committed companionship that I think marriage would represent, if I were married.  I said all of this to say, no matter what I have faced in life.   Despite my many losses,  I continue to enjoy my life because my God-spot is filled.  I was just grateful about this feeling today so I thought that I should write about it.

Do you think the God-spot is important in your life?  If so, leave a comment.

Why Bioelectric Impedance Measurement (BIM)?

Hi Everyone!

It’s me again.  I wanted to talk about a wonderful medical treatment that I had a few months back. My goal is to continue with the treatment because when I was on the program I really felt better.  Here is the explanation of the treatment from the doctor’s website as I did not want to do him an injustice by explaining the procedure incorrectly. Thanks again Dr. Vaziri!

What is BIM?

Nutrition and Supplementation

Proper nutrition and supplementation are essential components of a healthy body. Vaziri Alternative Medicine uses a state of the art Bioelectric Impedance Measurement (BIM) device to measure 58 different electrical circuits in your body related to specific organs and systems (i.e. liver, heart, lungs, immune system). By applying this advanced technology, we can effectively formulate a comprehensive support program that includes detailed recommendations for an optimal supplementation regimen customized to your specific needs.

This information can be used in conjunction with a personalized dietary/nutrition program to achieve your health goals such as cholesterol reduction, controlling blood pressure, diabetes and weight loss/management.

I hope this explanation helped to explain the process.  I really enjoyed it and I cannot wait to go back to Dr. Vaziri again.   So, why do BIM treatments?  Because they are awesome and it’s like having a specialized diagnostic test and tune-up for the body.  Wouldn’t it be nice to find out if your organs are not functioning properly and adjust the problem without prescription medicines that could have negative long-term health effects?

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Dignity & Grace


Dear Young Ladies:

Please do not be angry with me about this picture, but it was the only one that I could find that even remotely fit my title for the week. Lol!

Young ladies, I wanted to write about dignity and grace this week because I think that these virtues are being forgotten.  I could just define the words “dignity” and “grace” but I would rather give you examples of the two.

Have you ever had someone at school or out in public say or do something really disrespectful to you?  How did you react?  Did you follow your first reaction?  If so, next time something or someone disrespects you publicly show poise and address the issue with class.  You can ask the person if there is something that they need help with or if they are o.k.  Sometimes people just need to know that someone cares about them and then they may change their perspectives. By being peaceful in this case you would be exemplifying dignity and grace.  My personal pet peeve is to see young ladies drinking alcohol and acting out in public with very little clothing on.  This behavior does not represent your best self.  This behavior is neither dignified or gracious and furthermore it is dangerous as a young lady.  There are predators who will take advantage of you when you are in an altered state.  Rise above ugly situations!!!  Let your reputation be good regardless of the people who will laugh and say that being good is boring. People may taunt you and tell you that you think that you are better than others. None of the naysayers or haters matter.  Being a lady of excellence, dignity, and grace is not easy but it is worth it.  As a young lady, you will notice that if people see you do one thing wrong they will try to use that one bad experience against you.  People will attempt to label you as a liar, a thief, a promiscuous person, a cheat, etc.  I want you to decide how you want to be thought of.  Please choose wisely.

Being dignified and gracious does not mean that you have to be conceited, egotistical, arrogant, or snobbish.  In fact, being dignified and gracious means being both approachable and caring.  These two virtues that I am discussing this week will add greatly to your beauty.  If these virtues live on the inside of you your beauty will shine outwardly.

As always, remember that I love you and I am praying for you.


Acupuncture Needles On Back Of A Young Woman Stock Photography

A few times a year I go to my Acupuncturist.  I must admit I was a little skeptical about this form of Chinese medicine, but after experiencing it, I have developed a new respect for the process.  Some people have asked me about the pain from the needles.   Honestly, you do not feel the needles.  The needles are very thin and they are meant to release blockages in the veins that develop from time to time.  After my first treatment, I felt blood moving in my body like never before.  I felt rejuvenated!!

I know acupuncture is not often talked about but it can be helpful if you have chronic diseases like: high blood pressure, diabetes, asthma, etc.

If you try it, please leave a comment.  I would love to hear about your experience.

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Think First, Emote Later!


Dear Young Ladies:

I hope that you are well.  I hope that you are enjoying the end of your summer vacation and preparing for a successful new school year.

This week I would like to speak with you about a topic that many believe is impossible for girls and women to practice.  The topic this week is learning to think first.  Sometimes, we as girls, are affected emotionally because we are experiencing hormonal changes in our bodies.  Even though our bodies may face changes, we still have the ability to think before we behave.  If our feelings are hurt, we do not have to scream, throw a fit, and make everyone else in our presence miserable, we can choose to think and figure out why we feel the way we do.  Then, once we are in a position to show self-control then we should talk about our feelings and not necessarily act upon them all.   Please understand, I am not suggesting that you ignore your feelings, I am simply suggesting that you DO NOT live by your emotions.  What do I mean?

Well, if you live an “emotional life” you may not accomplish much because your feelings will keep you from reaching your goals.  Feelings are temporary and life-long decisions should not be made by them.

When I was in high school, I would have terrible asthma attacks. Sometimes I did not feel like going to school.  Instead of giving in to those feelings I was determined that asthma was not going to stop me from pursuing my goal of going to college.  In order to go to college I had to successfully finish high school.  Right?  So, I decided to ignore my feelings and even my weak lungs ( I took my medicine and rested) as I refused to let feelings deter me from achieving my goals.  I think that this is a lesson that is not taught to girls and young ladies enough.

Try using your mind and using your reasoning before you act.  Write down how things make you feel.  Then ask yourself why you feel that way.  Try to understand why you are or are not going to do what your feelings are telling you to do.  If you try this exercise and it works for you, please leave a comment and let me know.

As always, remember that I love you and that I am praying for you.

Fathers & Daughters


I usually interview men about their lives on this blog.  This week, I felt like writing about someone very dear to my heart in hopes that men will see the importance of this topic.

My Daddy was born with epilepsy so when I was a young girl he had suffered many accidents while working as his seizures would come on without notice.  Before I was born, my Daddy was at work when he had a seizure and severed four of his fingers on his right hand and he was right-handed.  When I was very small he was painting a building on a ladder.  They tell me he was about 50 feet up.  He had a seizure and fell breaking his bones.  By the time I was 7 years old, he had a series of seizures that caused him to lose his memory. During this period the only thing he would say was “seven”.  The doctors told my Mommy to put my Daddy in a nursing home because he would never recover but after six months, he did recover.  My Dad continued to do odd jobs, work around the house, and he did all of the household’s outdoor work. Behind our house in Pasadena, my Daddy grew a large and beautiful garden.  We had our own tomatoes, greens, cucumbers, green onions, lettuce.  My Daddy knew that I loved pickles so he would make pickles from scratch out of the cucumbers that he grew himself.  Amazing, right?

As a little girl, I remember spending a lot of time with my Daddy.  On Saturdays, I would get up and watch cartoons, my Daddy would come out of his room before my Mommy or any of the other kids got up.  He would say, “You wanna go with your old Pa?”  I would always say, “Yes!”  Then, I would  get dressed as fast as I could.”  My Daddy would take me shopping for church and school clothes, we would go to the bank where he taught me to save, balance a checkbook, and track my own bank account.  My Daddy made sure that I had my own bank account by the time I was nine (9) years old.  Our little trips would end at Bob’s Big Boy, then we would head home.  During those trips my Daddy would let me know how smart I was, how nice I was to help out at the house (both my parents were sick at this point), and how I could do anything that I set my mind to do.  I felt like I was the apple of my Daddy’s eye as we were very close up until my parents separated when I was fourteen (14) years old.  My relationship with my Dad was such a secure one as a young girl that I did not need to take the route of running out to find “love” when I became a teenager because I already knew how love should look and how it should make me feel.  My Daddy taught me what to look for in a man.  He also taught me how I would know if a man really loves me or if he has other motives.

My whole point for this article is to encourage every man who has a daughter to spend time with her.  Find out what your daughter thinks and how she feels.  Even though men in our society do not receive the credit that they deserve, your impact in your daughter’s life is necessary.  She needs you!  Maybe you have not spoken to her in years?  If this is your story, then start today.  Take it from me, I believe that a daughter needs an active and loving father relationship more than a son.  If you have a strong positive relationship with your daughter she will make better decisions with her life and with her romantic relationships.  How do I know?  “Because I am living proof (I had to use this line because it was one of my Daddy’s favorite lines)!”

The Ms. Dionne Warwick Experience


Dear Young Ladies:

I hope that your week has been blessed and prosperous.

This week I was reminded of when I grew up as a  little girl in the 80’s.  I know that’s a long time ago but at least I don’t feel old. Lol!  Anyway, when I was a little girl I went to a church called “Kings Chapel” the Pastor was the late great Bishop Joseph Wright, Sr.  He was a nice man who was passionate about having a ministry of excellence.  I was just a young girl so I am very surprised that I remember him so well but he really impacted my family and I for the better.    Our church was small maybe there were 200 members or so.  I just remember there were a lot of big families and those families were like family to my family.  In the 1980’s Ms. Dionne Warwick was a big star.  She was on television a lot hosting and singing.  I watched her all of the time.  One Sunday morning, she walked into church.  I was about seven years old.  I looked up and guess who sat right next to me?  Yep, Ms. Dionne Warwick!  I was so excited I knudged my Mommy and said, “Is that Ms. Warwick?”  She said, “Yes.”  Just then Ms. Warwick noticed that I recognized her and she leaned down, smiled, and said to me, “You are the cutest little girl.”  I was so excited and I just kept smiling.  Ms. Warwick always came back to visit the church and she was always friendly to my family and I.

Ms. Warwick’s words helped to build a self-confidence in me that I still have today.  Her words were kind and loving.  It is a wonderful feeling to have someone that you admire say something nice about you.  Right?  Well, Ms. Warwick’s compliment was kind and it helped to shape me as a girl, a young lady, and now a woman.  Just as a person can say something impactful to or about you, God says something about all of us that is even more impactful.  Do you realize that just one Word from God, can change your life?  Here’s an example, in the Bible Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope (expected end).”  Is this concept amazing or what?  It does not matter who does or does not validate you as a young lady as long as you know that God’s thoughts are always toward you.  God loves you just for who you are and so do I.

I just wanted to share this story with you because I felt like you needed encouragement this week.

Remember that I love you and that I am praying for you.



The other day I was eating lunch.  Since I am a Public Health Ph.D. student I have read about many diseases that currently face America.  Before I opened my can of soda I walked the can of soda (made with pure cane sugar) over to the sink and washed it with a little bleach and scalding hot water.  Then I dried off the top of the can and opened it so that I could enjoy it.  You are probably asking yourself, does she do that everytime she drinks a soda?  Well you are not the first one to ask that question.  The person I was eating lunch with asked me the same question.  Lol!  The answer is yes and no.  When I do not have access to hot water and bleach, then I usually use antibacterial on the top of the can and wipe it off well with a paper towel.  Then I use a straw to drink as I am not convinced that I was able to clean the can well enough.  Lol!

Anyway, the reason I go to such lengths to wash off my canned soda is simple.  I learned in one of my Public Health Classes that sodas are stored in warehouses before they are sold.  Mice and other small animals are in those warehouses and sometimes the small animals urinate on top of the cans.  Nasty, right?  Then, those soda cans are sold to us, the consumers, many of us drink them as soon as we get them without cleaning the can, and this could lead to a disease called Leptospirosis.  Leptospirosis is a bacterial disease.  Symptoms of the disease are: chills, high fever, and severe headaches to name a few.  It can take from 2 days to 4 weeks before symptoms can occur once you have been exposed to the disease.   Thankfully, this disease can be treated effectively with antibiotics. When I learned this information in my class I was just as shocked and amazed as you are now.  Lol!  If you do not believe me perhaps you will believe The Center for Disease Control which is our nations public health watchdog (see below reference).

So, how many of you will be joining me in the fight against Leptospirosis by cleaning off your cans of soda (I clean all cans) before consuming them? 

Take care and be safe out there!


1. do people get leptospirosis

“Brain Laps”


Have you ever had a conversation with someone that does not seem to ever keep up with a conversation?  Have you ever met someone who just seems to be three or four steps behind the topic in a conversation and it is clear that they do not even realize it?  Have you ever wondered why these people are slow in their comprehension?  Perhaps they could be mentally ill or maybe their brain is metaphorically sitting on the couch eating chili cheese fries, soda, cupcakes, and ice cream.  Catch my drift?  Lol!  They may be a part of the lazy brain bunch.

How important is it to exercise your brain?  Brain exercise is very important.  If we do not live a life of examining, reading, and studying then our brains can experience “atrophy”.  Websters dictionary defines atrophy as  a wasting away of the body or of an organ or part, as from defective nutrition or nerve damage.  Yes, the brain is an organ.  Lol!  Atrophy is also  the degeneration, decline, or decrease, as from disuse.

In my opinion, the brain is the most creative, fascinating, inventive, intelligent, and powerful creation ever made by God.  High speed internet, computer systems, and computer software do not hold a candle to how fast and how quickly our brains can respond to commands, problems, solution finding, etc……but the key is, we have to use our mind and train it how to think.

I want to encourage everyone reading to exercise your mind.  You don’t have to go to school to learn, you can go to the library and make a committment to read a book a month, then two books a month, then three books a month.  After you have started to discover the wonders of your mind again, please drop me a line and tell me how you think and feel about yourself.    You’ll be surprised I’m sure!



My personal trainer just got back from vacation. She was gone for a week.  I worked out with her yesterday and I have one word to say, “Yikes!”  It was pretty rigorous yesterday.  I mean the sweat was pouring off of me like buckets of water.  I have to admit that I missed the pain last week.  I say that because when the workout is over I feel like I can conquer anything. 

Thanks Ellen, let’s keep the Balacore workout going strong!

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